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[livejournal.com profile] book_babe emailed me this article this morning ('A Plague of Strong Female Characters: Tough, Cold, Terse, Taciturn and Prone to Not Saying Goodbye When They Hang Up the Phone'), saying she figured I would appreciate it. Um, understatement! It is a fantastic read, an article about the conundrum of the "strong" female character which basically states how I have been feeling about that whole thing forever much more eloquently stated. Here is a v. long excerpt, but really you should read the whole thing:

“Strong women characters” are a canard. They refer to the old-fashioned “strong, silent type,” a type that tolerates very little blubbering, dithering, neuroticism, anxiety, melancholy or any other character flaw or weakness that makes a character unpredictable and human.

The absurdity of the strong-female-character expectation becomes apparent if you reverse it: Not only does calling for “strong male characters” sound ridiculous and kind of reactionary, but who really wants to watch them? They sound boring. In fact, traditional “strong male characters” have been almost entirely abandoned in favor of male characters who are blubbery, dithering, neurotic, anxious, melancholic or otherwise “weak,” because this weakness is precisely what makes characters interesting, relatable and funny.

Just to give an idea how entrenched, pervasive and distorting this idea can be: A few weeks back, I was in the car listening to Elvis Mitchell interview Paul Feig, the director of “Bridesmaids.” Mitchell remarked that “Bridesmaids” seemed an unlikely project for Feig to have taken on. Feig replied that he had wanted to do a project for “strong women characters” for a while and pointed out that, after all, “Freaks and Geeks” was Lindsay’s — a teenage girl’s — story.

Funny, Mitchell remarked, Kristen Wiig’s character in the movie didn’t exactly strike him as particularly strong — she actually seemed like kind of a mess. Feig conceded that, yes, she was kind of a mess, but it was O.K., because they had made sure to establish in two scenes that, before she was temporarily derailed by the recession, she was a talented and successful business owner and would soon be back on top.

I don’t really believe that Feig, whose movie is the first in a while to feature women who sound a lot like women, thinks that the reason that we feel empathy and not contempt for Wiig’s delightfully, deliriously, awesomely messed-up and pathetic character is because she used to own a bakery. I think he meant it in the other sense, in the sense that he meant to do a story told strongly from a woman’s point of view. Either that or what happened was that he felt himself pulled into a discussion that’s been so distorted by this pervasive and stifling either/or fallacy that confronting it actually makes people get nervous and say weird things. I’m sure he’s perfectly aware that the movie has struck a nerve because its female characters are such a jumble of flaws and contradictions. Wiig’s not likeable despite the fact that she never gets her brake lights fixed and thoughtlessly hurts someone even as she herself is experiencing the pain of being hurt; or despite the fact that she’s jealous of her best friend’s happiness or of her best friend’s new best friend’s money and apparent perfection; or that she lingers in a destructive relationship with a guy she knows is treating her like dirt; or that, unlike the protagonists of the average romantic comedy aimed at women, she is forced to live with weirdos, who treat her miserably, and she doesn’t live in an adorable downtown loft complete with a pale blue refrigerator that retails for $2,000. (Nice touch, “Something Borrowed.”) We don’t relate to her despite the fact that she is weak, we relate to her because she is weak.

in high school we would have called this a 'personal response' )

YEE-HAW

Oct. 23rd, 2008 06:32 pm
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friday night lights 3x04 )

AND BY THE WAY, if you haven't been watching this season, it is really, truly good.

Ha, so, watching this week, I was thinking about cultural stereotypes and this got kind of long, so I cut it too! )

THIS IS WHAT I WANT TO KNOW FROM YOU: where do you think your personal mores come from (family, community, city, state, country, class, race, religion, lifestyle, WHATEVER YOU CAN THINK OF) and how it differs (and, almost more importantly, does not differ) from the stereotypes and other cultures as you see them. I wrote an essay on this once, and, uh, it was much more well-worded. SORRY :(

ALSO, if you do watch FNL, I am super curious about how you think it relates back to that.

On that noooooooote, one of the best, most amazing things, I think, about Friday Night Lights is that so specifically set and yet so perfectly, completely relatable even if you know NOTHING about football culture. You cannot say the same thing about our Gossip Girls and our Californications, shiny though they may be. THAT (+ how it relates to personal experience) is the essence of what I'm trying to get at with all these words I can't seem to fit together right. There is something so inexplicably tangible about these people, and that is why, I think, I have shed more tears for Dillon, TX than any other fictional universe. Except maaaaaybe the West Wing.

UGH, I FEEL LIKE IT SOUNDS LIKE I AM SOMEHOW DEMANDING AN ACADEMIC ESSAY FROM YOU. I don't mean that, really! If you don't want to overanalyze your I would really, really love to read dumb personal anecdotes about your town or your nation or your state. Just where you come from, MENTALLY. I eat this kind of thing up (SERIOUSLY, one of the greatest things about livejournal is the differences in experience you can be exposed to), PLEASE, PLEASE INDULGE ME? :D?


Ha, so, unrelated but in fact related, but I'm thinking about adding a sociology minor, or really only test-driving a class to see if I like sociology in academic format? Or something, because I view the world in such sociologically-colored glasses and it seems silly to not think about studying something I so vigilantly pursue in my daily life, if I can get the opportunity? Buuuuuuuut I need to talk to my advisor because I'm a little afraid it'd take me more than four years on top of my (french) major and med school admission requirements. Not that that would be so explicitly terrible, but I'm not sure what it would mean in terms of my scholarship. I also sentimentally want to wait for Vivian, because she's re-entering school in the fall (she's on her six month ~wilderness discovery program~ in Chile right now) and even though she hasn't expicitly decided she's coming to CU (she disliked Macalester, and she misses the mountains -- ha, I DON'T KNOW HOW I ENDED UP WITH THIS CRAZY OUTDOORSY PERSON FOR A BEST FRIEND -- so she's picking between CU and Colorado College. Which is a great school, but IT IS IN COLORADO SPRINGS. Which is the conservative capitol of Colorado. Ohmygoooooodness, I've only ever been down there for skating competitions, but I got the willies every time we passed Focus on the Family. ...SEE? SNOB.) but we sort of decided looking into sociology was something we both needed to do. It would be nice to explore it together. But I also feel funny waiting for something that might not happen. I DON'T KNOW.


IN CONCLUSION, there are these boots in a boutique in Denver that I ABSOLUTELY COVET (grey suede with a slight heel AND THREE ADORABLE SUEDE BUTTONS UP THE EDGES) and I finally (ha, birthdays!) have enough excess cash to go grab them, but I am sick and do not feel like driving myself to Denver. My life: so hard.

ALSO, I am downright CREEPED OUT by the degree to which this and how EXACTLY it resembles a scene I have LIVED THROUGH, this is making me sad, when the hell is Bones coming back?, livejournal should not make ME WILLINGLY SITTING HERE TRYING TO PAY THEM WITH A DEBIT CARD THIS DIFFICULT, AND I AM GOING TO WATCH THE 30 ROCK PREMIERE NOW, and it is going to be awesome.
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a zillion paragraphs on the Office finale, the Office season 4 as a whole, Office nostalgia, basically just a lot of me rambling. About the Office. )

Did anyone click that SCARY SPOILER CUT in [livejournal.com profile] 206_bones today? IS SOMEONE DYING??? DO YOU KNOW WHO??? Don't tell me! Ohmygoddddd I cannot believe I resisted clicking it.

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