more often than not it leaves me feeling gross and sad that people like these characters may actually exist in the world

YES ME TOO (SORRY FOR JUMPING INTO YOUR CONVERSATION A DAY LATE).

Even the female characters who attempt to assert themselves as like, strong female figures in funny ridiculous ways...They have such an air of vague...Not-quite-misogyny?

I also agree with this! I find a lot of things about the show problematic. I mean, I enjoy it, but not on all levels.