elapses

YES, EXACTLY. And questions like that are already conditioned by your personality - someone who is pretty insular might think, yes, I give too much of myself already, it exhausts me - so they say "yes," but maybe the question is weighted for that same personality-type to read it and think, "no, I really don't give too much, I stay within my narrow limits of how much I should give of myself," and answer "no." Then you could have the same confusion with a person who tends to over-extend themselves. SO DUMB.