ext_46919 ([identity profile] care-says.livejournal.com) wrote in [personal profile] elapses 2011-07-02 02:18 am (UTC)

Okay, so what's funny about this is that I think this sometimes when I watch shows and it's like "SHE'S SUCH A BADASS BECAUSE SHE'S SO UNFEELING AND SHE'S ONE OF THE DUDES" and...whatever. I lose interest pretty fast.

I also feel these things a lot in conjunction with my sexual/gender identity and what I'm presenting to the world at large. Because for the most part I dress like a boy and can be a bit emotionally slow (like a stereotypical dude would be, but maybe an unfeeling lady might also be?), but I love Pride & Prejudice and rom-coms and I'm afraid of spiders and horror movies. Like, what does that make me? Is there one mold I'm conforming to?

My ex-girlfriend E was super femme-y, but she was also totally badass. Like, she could drive a tractor and knew how to use power tools and spent a summer building bridges and maintaining trails in state parks. And she would kill bugs for me. So, you know, there was a lot about our relationship that was pretty butch vs. femme on our parts and a lot of it that wasn't (she is also an INTJ, so the T vs F thing sometimes was weird; I have a lot of feelings, apparently).

I don't even know if this comment made any sense, but. What I really want to say is YES. YEEEESSSS. Awesome ladies are awesome ladies are awesome ladies. I don't need my ladies stoic and gun-toting. They can wear kitten heels and pencil skirts and enjoy their fruity alcoholic drinks. But I don't want my women dumb; I want them smart and sassy. And if they wield a motherfucking gun while doing a hairflip, that's pretty hot.

Also, Alanna of Trebond was awesome. And so was the BSC.

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